So Vanilla It Hurts

Vanilla sex or conventional sex is used to describe what a culture regards as standard or conventional sexual behavior. Different cultures, subcultures, and individuals have different ideas about what constitutes this type of sex. Often it is interpreted as sex that does not involve such elements as BDSM, kink, or fetish activities.

I feel the need to be very clear. I hate the term ‘vanilla’. However, as much as I hate it the word lends itself to a perfect and instant understanding. Especially in the BDSM community. Which is incidentally, another term I hate. The so called BDSM community is one either shrouded in shame and hidden or crazy leather covered madmen beating one another on street corners. Like all things in life, BDSM tends to be all or nothing and at extremes with even itself. I don’t blame my fellow kinksters for this. I blame the media. But then, I blame the media for everything under the sun.

Here is the thing that I want all my millions of future readers to know. Although I have a general dislike for nearly all generic phrasing, I am going to use it. I am going to use the hell out of it. I am going to toss around horribly cliché sayings at every opportunity. I am going to do it and do it well. Why? Because you understand what they mean. And I know how to spell them.

Now that all that is out of the way, on with the show.

Who?

Bondage Girl is the author of another blog, a well respected Mommy Type Blog that has been around for a few years. On said blog our beloved bg writes about things that most Mommy Bloggers do, work and toys and dinners and poems and photos of her precious family. Not that that there is anything wrong with that, but bg is getting a little bored keeping it family safe and has started this new site to let out a little more… steam.

Bondage Girl is 28, lives in the lifeless Midwest and can often be found reading, writing and paying someone else to do her arithmetic. She enjoys photography, art, liberal politics and rope.